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Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free

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From the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Primates of Park Avenue, a bold, timely reconsideration of female infidelity that will upend everything you thought you knew about women and sex.

What do straight, married female revelers at an all-women's sex club in LA have in common with nomadic pastoralists in Namibia who bear children by men not their husbands? Like wome
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Hardcover, 320 pages
Published September 18th 2018 by Little, Brown Spark
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Mark Grether
Oct 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
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Jocelyn Rivard
Oct 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book won't be for everybody. And I'll admit that my attention wandered a bit in chapters dealing with research into primates, etc. But the anecdotal sections and the historic detail of how monogamy became a thing were truly fascinating.
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Scientifically literate and sexually cliterate … an exuberant unfettering of female sexuality that challenges us to ‘think outside her box.’ Viva la Vulva!
Ian Kerner, Sex Therapist and Author of She Comes First

If you have ever felt different, other, or just weird when it comes to love, sex, or intimacy, read Untrue. Wednesday Martin bulldozes the sexual stereotypes that have silenced women for eons. By bringing the voices of women who love in a range of ways to the surface, she shows us all that
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Cait
Oct 02, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2018
So. I'm really into the use of ethnography and participant-observation as a way to examine mainstream, western culture. That being said, I needed this to either be less anthropological or more. It might be the penalty of knowing too much, but I had a lot of questions about the ethics here & the tone at times was not great
Morgan Destera
Nov 09, 2018 rated it liked it
I can't say I am a fan of her writing style. It seems many of her sentences run on and get somewhat confusin - One thing I am not pleased with is the author's tendency to describe the people she is interviewing. Tall, blonde, willowy, beautiful, young, what color lipstick, etc. Everyone seems to fit into the mold of the “perfect woman”. Where are the short, heavier ladies? Where are the non-binary (noted but never described)? - She cites a lot of other peoples' reseach but seems to only conduct ...more
Simone Collins
Nov 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
What a thoroughly enjoyable read! As having basically zero sex drive myself (let's be honest with ourselves: humans are repulsive), I blithely accepted the conventional wisdom that women had lower sex drives, cheated less, and were tempted to cheat less.

Few things are more refreshing than books that help to change one's paradigm. Untrue was definitely one of these books for me. I thoroughly enjoyed Wednesday's multifaceted exploration of female infidelity, explored through different social scien
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Verne Curley
Aug 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Great book
Scribe Publications
Scientifically literate and sexually cliterate … an exuberant unfettering of female sexuality that challenges us to ‘think outside her box.’ Viva la Vulva!
Ian Kerner, Sex Therapist and Author of She Comes First

If you have ever felt different, other, or just weird when it comes to love, sex, or intimacy, read Untrue. Wednesday Martin bulldozes the sexual stereotypes that have silenced women for eons. By bringing the voices of women who love in a range of ways to the surface, she shows us all that
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Cristine Mermaid
Oct 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: sociology
Enlightening book about the myths surrounding women's sexuality. It contains heaps of research breaking myths such as "women are biologically wired for monogamy", "women need to be 'in love' to enjoy sex and can't have sex without falling in love", "women have low sex drives", "straight women can't be attracted to other women" etc etc.

The research and science behind the studies along with their conclusions is downright fascinating although it did go a bit too long about primate sexual behavior
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Sue
Oct 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
Extremely well written if necessarily narrow, but I totally get that the premise is the comparison and to create an excellent and provable hypothesis. The under examined and timely topic needs to be flushed out and be made grist for the mill. Lets talk about this. The tip of an iceberg in my humble opinion. This topic is eons in the making and so so much data to contribute. Exceptionally focused and well-done. Brava
Andrea
Dec 07, 2018 rated it it was ok
2.5 for me. This book wasn't exactly what I expected. I agree that female desire feels taboo to talk about.

I did learn about some stuff people are into that I didn't know people are into (throuples? Hot wifing?). I'm not entirely sure that some of this that looks like female sexual freedom isn't just another way to attend to men's desires, a different objectification, but to each their own.
Marylisa Sullivan
Nov 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Loved Wednesday Martin's research into female sexuality. Debunks many "myths" of low female desire from the animal world and through various cultures. I feel she gave women the benefit of unbridled sexuality not dictated by "societal mores."
Joy Bishop
Excellent book. Well thought out and researched.
Jason
Nov 20, 2018 rated it really liked it
Share it with everyone.
David
Dec 02, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: feminism
3.5 stars
Ashleigh
Oct 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Every woman should read it.
Adrian Sergiusz
Nov 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is an amazing and thought provoking book, a necessary addition and a very necessary one to those who have read Sex at Dawn.
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Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., is a social researcher and the author of Stepmonster: a New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do (2009). She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today (www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster) and blogs for the Huffington Post and on her own web site (www.wednesdaymartin.com). She has appeared as a stepparenting expert on NPR, the BBC Newshou ...more