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I Should Have Honor: A Memoir of Hope and Pride in Pakistan

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A fearless memoir about tribal life in Pakistan--and the act of violence that inspired one ambitious young woman to pursue a life of activism and female empowerment

"Khalida Brohi understands the true nature of honor. She is fearless in her pursuit of justice and equality."--Malala Yousafzai, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize

From a young age, Khalida Brohi was raised to belie
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Hardcover, 224 pages
Published September 4th 2018 by Random House
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Penny Speaking as a Gr. 6 - 8 MS Language Arts teacher, I feel it's fine for young adults. While violence is mentioned - murder, rape, etc it is not…moreSpeaking as a Gr. 6 - 8 MS Language Arts teacher, I feel it's fine for young adults. While violence is mentioned - murder, rape, etc it is not graphically described. (less)

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Diane S ☔
Nov 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
For those of us like myself, who feel helpless to change things in their lives or their country, or those who think that one person cannot possibly make a difference, this book may change your mind. Khalida Brohi, grew up in rural Pakistan, with a very unusual father who cherished his daughters as much as his sons. Who thought education was very important, a way to move ahead in life, to open oneselves up to a wider world. So while Khalida wss allowed to be z child, playing outside after her dai ...more
Ina Cawl
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
my your daughter be in house or in grave

old Somali proverb

" Honor is not murder. And dishonor is not a girl who goes to school. It is not a girl who plays outside. It is not a girl who refuses to marry at a young age. It is not a girl who speaks, laughs, and takes the opportunities that come in front of her. Instead, honor is identity. Honor is dignity. Honor is serving those we love with integrity and hard work; it is respecting one another, welcoming the stranger, and speaking and being proud
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Marialyce
Oct 03, 2018 rated it really liked it
4 courageous stars
My reviews can be seen here: http://yayareadslotsofbooks.wordpres...

If ever there was a place a culture, a time where women were dominated by the men in their family, that place would probably be in Pakistan. Kahlida, as a young girl wanted the things that all the young strive for. She wanted freedom to chose her life's direction and the man she would marry, to find her own way, to be a person who did not have every hour of every day plotted out for her. She writes of the lif
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Kristy K
Aug 22, 2018 rated it really liked it
3.5 Stars

What initially drew me to this memoir was the cover: it’s stunningly beautiful and I desperately need a physical copy to grace my shelves once it’s published. But the cover is also deceiving. Because inside its pages is not flowery prose or a whimsical tale; it is a story of strength, of heartbreak, of strong will and meek upbringings and yes, of honor too.

Brohi examines her life and those of her parents and others in Pakistan to expose the harsh reality that many there live with: the
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Fareya
Sep 11, 2018 rated it really liked it
Powerful and heartfelt, I Should Have Honor tells the story of how a young tribal woman from Pakistan stood up against honor killing - a widely accepted tribal tradition in rural Pakistan, and struggled her way to bring justice to thousands.

When Brohi's cousin gets murdered at the age of fourteen, in the name of honor, she is repulsed and sickened by the brutality and unjustness of the violence. Determined to fight against this injustice she takes out her anger and frustration by leading the f
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Siria
Nov 23, 2018 rated it it was ok
It feels churlish to critique a book like this: the memoir of a young woman who's spent much of her life campaigning against so-called "honour killings" and violence against women in tribal areas of Pakistan. Khalida Brohi has faced down familial censure and threats of violence, and even survived a bomb attack on her office. Her work is urgent, necessary, important—but I Should Have Honor is not a book which can be described in similar terms.

If not quite a sanitised narrative, this is certainly
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Jill Dobbe
Jun 12, 2018 rated it really liked it
I Should Have Honor tells the story of how the author fought against honor killings in Pakistan after learning early on what happens to her female friends and cousins who don't follow the centuries-old rules.

Brohi gets invited to conferences around the world to speak about the inhumane practices that women have to endure-married off at early ages, beatings by their husbands, and unable to leave their homes without permission. She also attempts to change the mindsets of the tribal leaders in the
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Bookworm
Oct 12, 2018 rated it it was ok
Don't recall what brought me to this book but I was excited to read this. I'm not familiar with Brohi but I am familiar with some of the topics her book discusses: arranged marriages, honor killings, cross-religious and cross-cultural relations and her mission to educate her people and country. After a couple of tough weeks I was looking forward to reading a book of a woman activist.

The book is Brohi's life and work: her background, her family, how she came to move into the line of work she did
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Lori
Aug 23, 2018 rated it it was ok
2.5 I felt so many things reading this book. Anger, frustration, helplessness (hopelessness), etc. Many of things the author wrote I had already heard (or read) about. I'm not sure if she brought anything new to the table. But I tried to see things from her point of view and the points of view from others she wrote about; however, I was lost. I did not come away from reading this book enlightened. Would have liked the book to read with a better flow, with the author concentrating more on the sit ...more
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What I Liked

Learning more about the treatment of women in Pakistan. As I mentioned in the intro, I’ve been trying to educate myself about the treatment of women in those Middle Eastern countries where they are discriminated against (and neighboring countries in the region as well). I had already read Malala Yousafzai’s memoir I Am Malala about her near-fatal experience fighting for her right to be educated in Pakistan. Brohi’s memoir gave me a different le
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Diane Yannick
Oct 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
I probably should have known about honor killings in Pakistan, but I didn’t. I did know that is a patriarchal society that believes in arranged marriages. The men had to figure out a way to punish the women who dared to disobey. This way the honor of your family could be restored. Imagine having the audacity to fall in love with someone of your own choosing. There were also planned marriage exchanges between tribes. Often daughters were promised before they were born.

Thank heavens, Khalida Broh
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Homeschoolmama
Sep 20, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: own, early-reviewers
I received this book as part of the early reviewers through Librarything, though it doesn't seem to be an actual ARC. It was published on Sept 4th, and this copy does seem like a final copy.
I enjoyed reading Khalida's story of her fight for women's rights in Pakistan, in particular, the campaign to draw attention to the horrid practice of honor killing. Khalida is a brave woman with fierce determination and imagination. Her upbringing was unusual in that her father and mother wanted to make sur
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Karen
Sep 07, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is the memoir of a young girl growing up in a tribal area of Pakistan. Khalida's father was sent to school as punishment, but instead found freedom in education. He went against his father and moved his family to Karachi so that his daughters could have an education. Khalida began to question what honor meant for her family when a cousin was murdered in an honor killing. Khalida became an activist to empower women within their tribal community.

Although this was a short book, I am glad I re
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Marika
Jun 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir
Author Khalida Brohi is on a mission, a dangerous one. She was born in Pakistan to a tribal family who observes tribal customs, but she was blessed to have a father who defied those very customs. She was taught to read, and had a loving father who told her that she should have honor. While SHE had honor, she was appalled by honor killings and it is her life's mission to teach others that the old ways are not the best ways.

For readers who were inspired by Malala Yousafzai and her book, 'I Am Mal
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Julie Giehl
Nov 04, 2018 rated it liked it
Brohi writes that those who sit far apart do not understand each other. Her book gives you a seat next to her and it’s a worthwhile read. As an activist fighting to end honor killings in Pakistan, she shares a personal story about how education gives her and her family a chance at a different life. Easy read and well worth the time.
Aly Olson
Oct 14, 2018 rated it liked it
This book reminded me a lot of I Am Malala, which I enjoyed more. The most poignant parts of the book are when Brohi examines how honor killings were rationalized by people in her community, but I wanted more of how different people internalized these experiences and comparisons to how every culture does this with certain behaviors.
Sherie Lundmark
Sep 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book opened my eyes to Pakistani culture. Richly steeped in tradition and honor, A culture also in many families repressive and abusive to women.. It was very refreshing and inspiring to hear the path taken by Khalida, and the support and love from her family that is still at work today trying to improve the lives of Pakistani women.
Carol
Oct 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Inspiring!
RaeAnna Rekemeyer
Sep 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
As a little girl, her father wanted her to be a doctor, but she grew up to heal what doctor’s cannot: a healer of souls. A tragedy that began in love lead Khalida Brohi down a road that would help her change her family, change her country, change the world, and bring her love. Read my full review at: http://onthebl.org/2018/09/07/i-shou...
Michelle Arredondo
Aug 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Beautiful cover, I Should Have Honor: A Memoir of Hope and Pride in Pakistan, also great content. The story and life of Khalida Brohi, trials, tribulations, struggles to survive in a world that is not kind to women that don't follow harsh and strict rules that have been set in place for years and years and years.

Author Khalida Brohi invites us into her past. Born into a tribal family with strict rules that have spanned generations. Her father...went against those customs and rules just a bit to
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Sherry
Sep 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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Laurel
Oct 11, 2018 rated it liked it
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I Should Have Honor

I Should Have Honor: A Memoir of Hope and Pride in Pakistan is Khalida Brohi’s book about two kinds of honor, the honor that is dignity, honesty, and justice, the meaning espoused in the Holy Quran, and honor killings, the horrific practice of killing women who have supposedly brought dishonor to their family by glancing at a man, choosing another man over one they are promised to, or any manner of infractions a man of the family decides upon. There are over 1,000 women killed
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Nelda Brangwin
Sep 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Khalida Brohi could have her picture in a definition of courage. Born in a Pakistani family where women were valued, she experienced more freedom than most girls in her society. Yet, as she reached puberty, her options became less and she used her voice to speak out for the women of Pakistan. Using the internet and social media, as a teenager she spoke to the world about women’s rights. When scorned she continued her fight and ended up being invited to youth leadership gatherings around the worl ...more
Claire
Nov 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
What struck me most about the author Brohi was that Khalida (her first name) sounds awfully close to Claire (my given name). This memoir is recommended by Malala Yousafzai, the little girl who made waves for education a couple years ago. (I guess she's not a little girl anymore, but I remember her as the little girl in the news. Ah - Wikipedia says Malala's studying for a bachelor's in Philosophy, Politics & Economics at Oxford right now.)

This book discussed some disturbing topics and explai
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K.H. Leigh
Sep 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: biography, nonfiction
Powerful and personal. Brohi's strongest accomplishment with this book is the clear distinction she makes between her culture and the barbarism that threatens to destroy it from within. She strongly conveys that, despite our outsiders' perception, the rampant violence against women in Pakistan is not part of the culture itself, but a cancer that infects it. It is a disease, and like any disease it must be identified, treated, cut out, cured. The country, the people, the religion, are not the dis ...more
Victoria Wood
Nov 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Full Overview, Review and Commentary over on my blog - http://girlwithnoselfie.com/i-should...

“Even if I have nothing, I should have honor.”

Brohi’s memoir examines her family’s upbringing, her own life, tribal living, Pakistan and how she sought to end “honor killings” after her cousin was murdered in that same centuries-old tradition. Her story is one of determination, and strength but also one of enlightenment if you are not familiar with life in Pakistani life.

I SHOULD HAVE HONOR is a timely
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Mackenzie Newcomb
Aug 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I cannot stress enough how eye opening and important this book is. Khalida is a gift to the world. Though the content of this book can be extremely heavy, it is written in a way that is extremely digestible (despite the disturbing content.) This could easily be read by someone with a middle school reading level (which in my opinion is a good thing for a book that should be widely distributed.) Khalida incorporates humor when appropriate. I laughed out loud when I read that she thought Oprah live ...more
Jean
Nov 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
In this memoir, Khalida Brohi tells her story of growing up female in Pakistan. Parts of her story are familiar to those who have read stories of life as a girl in a Muslim culture. One aspect of Khalida's story that is different is support she receives from her father.
I consider this a light-weight version of the challenges a woman faces growing up in this culture. There was a little bit of a magical feel to her story as suddenly (it seemed to me) Khalida was speaking in Los Angeles or appearin
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S
Sep 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
I was intrigued by the cover of this book and the title. But once I started reading this memoir it was captivating yet heartbreaking . Being from the same country as the author and knowing how honor killing is part of culture in some parts of the country. Not experiencing anything like this it was truly an eye opening experience and at times sad at how some people in the same country our living with such orthodox mentality where as for us who are blessed to live in big cities don’t have to deal ...more
Steve and Tanya Panella
As a read the book is easy, simple, yet descriptive. As as a story it is amazing. What the author has accomplished for herself, her community, and in a ripple effect for the world tremendous. What Brohi has accomplished is inspiring, especially from such humble beginnings and against so many obstacles. Its especially encouraging to read what empathy, selflessness and determination can accomplish and perhaps we can overcome what we are faced now with so much selfishness, greed and lies in America ...more
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Khalida Brohi, 29, is a serial entrepreneur, activist and speaker from Pakistan. She is the Founder and Executive Director of Sughar Foundation USA, a non-profit dedicated to providing tribal and rural women in Pakistan with opportunities to evaluate their abilities and nurture their leadership skills in an environment of growth and development.

Khalida is also co-founder of The Chai Spot with her
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“Forgiveness is a selfish act. It unburdens you, relieves you and prepares you to move forward, take big steps and do all that you could not do when you were chained up in invisible ropes of a grudge.” 0 likes
“About one thousand woman are killed each year in Pakistan in the name of honor. And these are just the reported cases.” 0 likes
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